I have been thinking a lot about this time of year and how we adapt our mindsets to almost write off this period and put lots of pressure on January 1st. It's funny isn't it. Because its mid December and we all start winding down for Christmas in the coming days, we have this mindset of "Ah I can do that in January".
We decide that January holds all the power and will spark our motivation, dedication and whatever else we need. But what happens if it doesn't? What happens if it is just another month, another day, another year and you still keep putting off working towards your goals?
Let's change perspective, say you start a new job in December. You wouldn't turn around to your employer and say "Yeah don't worry about paying me till January, it will mean more then". I know you're reading this thinking I've gone crazy! But that is how it feels to me when we delay whatever we want to do until January.
Whatever we want to achieve is likely going to take us a bit of time so it is better to get started straight away instead of putting it off. You will only end up delaying when you achieve your goal. Even starting to disrupt the habits that you are wanting to change will help you get started when you want to, because think about it - the habits and things we want to change the most aren't things we have just started doing. Especially if you have waited till January to change them - these are the big ones (typically)
So how are we going to get started?
The best way to get started is to break things down into small steps. And then when they are in small steps, break them down again.
Too often, we put things off because they don't seem manageable. We set ourselves up to fail from the get go 😩. The key to success is breaking things down into such small chunks that getting started seems doable.
We need to create a plan that we look at and think "I can definitely get that done, not a problem at all". The minute we create a step that is too big, we will naturally resist it. As humans, we want to keep as safe as possible and sometimes being safe means keeping on doing what you're familiar with and already know.
Lets look at an example:If you want to lose some weight, your end goal might be to eat healthy meals, exercise regularly and be more active. If you currently don't exercise at all and have a poor relationship with food then starting a new regime tomorrow will seem daunting. But if you break it down and think that first you are going to change one meal to be a healthier choice until that feels comfortable, then that is what you need to do.
First you need to decide what it is that you want to achieve. What is the goal? And get really really really clear on what you want AND the reason why!
Then break the goal down into incredibly small steps that make you excited to get started.
Once you have created momentum towards your goal you will be ready to up the ante a bit, but DO NOT go all guns blazing to start with, small steps equal progress - taking zero steps equals none!
This period between Christmas and New Year can be a great time to try your goals on for size. Do they make you feel good? How easy will they be to implement? Can you set yourself up for success in the mean time? Are they even your goals or do they belong to someone else? (That's a good one to journal on FYI)
I know goal setting in January can really get a bad rep and if you are only setting goals because you feel like you 'should' then I would also use this period to really decide if 2024 is the year you choose to ditch all the goals with the exception of simply just being.
As a self love coach, I'm an advocate for supporting anyone who chooses to set goals for themself that compliment their self love journey and amplify their commitment to themselves. And on that note some suggestions that will be on my radar for next year are:
Curating more time to be present and in the moment
Less judgemental of self - in all areas
Prioritising connecting to my body at least once a day
Making time to consciously connect with myself after I have spent time with others and assess how they and their energy make me feel
What are some of your new years focuses going to be? I would love to hear what is important to you for 2024 so please feel free to share in the comments.
See you next time, Lisa xx